Neurodiverse Sexual Consulting

 Disability Doesn’t Stop Desire

The goal is to provide quality sexual health and relationship education for neurodivergent people.

Accurate, sex positive sexual health education is a right and necessity for everyone.  Neurodivergent individuals often face barriers when attempting to access the information that they need to have happy, healthy relationships and stay safe. Educators and advocates require resources, training and tools to support the neurodiverse population and fulfill that right.

What does the term neurodiverse mean?

Neurodiverse is an umbrella term that can include any individual that identifies as divergent from the neurotypical population. ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), Autism and IDD (Intellectual and Developmental Disability) are all forms of neurodiversity.

Jan’s clients are diverse in ability and age. Her practice is influenced by self-advocates, trauma informed and comprehensive as she works with neurodiverse individuals as well as parents, organizations and support people. She supports individuals who have multiple and complex needs.

One of the unique aspects of Jan’s practice is that she also works with individuals who are cognitively gifted but are frustrated by all the abstract, complicated and unwritten rules around relationships. Jan makes the invisible, visible. 

A key component of Jan’s approach targets the needs of those who work with neurodiverse individuals and includes education, consulting and engaging training experiences for community agencies, school districts and their staff. 

Neurodiverse Sexual Consulting is a health education service offered by Jan Arneson. Jan’s goal is to create accessible sex education for everyone and to ensure that professionals feel competent and comfortable providing this service.

Neurodiverse Sexual Consulting provides: 

  • Individuals with one-to-one educational sessions tailored to their needs

  • Professional development opportunities and teaching material for staff and support people

  • Education-accurate, bias aware, accessible information and resources

  • Increased knowledge, confidence and comfort level for parents and educators

  • Support in planning harm reducing processes and policy development for organizations around instances of boundary crossing or misconduct

  • Consulting on specific incidents or reoccurring concerns

Why is Sexual Health Education essential for everyone?

The research is clear, when people have accurate, accessible information they make healthy, positive choices for themselves and others. When we have the understanding that human sexuality is normal and healthy and the confidence to express ourselves and ask questions without shame, we have autonomy and control over all aspects of our lives. This greatly increases the quality of our relationships and therefore the quality of our lives.

Sexual health education content is often not adapted to meet the needs of individuals with social and/or cognitive impairments. Neurodivergent individuals report that material was not covered adequately, not taught directly using a variety of modalities or that different learning styles were not considered.  Self-advocates were not given the time, attention, and repetition necessary to achieve mastery of the concepts. This results in students leaving high school and becoming adults that are not equipped to navigate everyday life situations because they did not have adequate education and learning opportunities. 

The consequences for individuals and our entire community can be severe, such as: 

  • Isolation, loneliness, limited social involvement

  • The basic human right of bodily autonomy not being honoured

  • Being taken advantage of emotionally, physically, or financially in an unhealthy relationship and or remaining in an abusive relationship

  • Unfulfilled dreams of independence and being in a relationship

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Sex Ed for People with Intellectual & Developmental Disabilities: Introduction - Self-Advocate Video

This section of video is created by self advocates who have intellectual and developmental disabilities. It is the introduction to a series of excellent educational videos that can be found on YouTube. The video describes the experiences that many self-advocates have had and dispels common myths. The videos are produced by The National Council of Independent Living and Rooted in Rights.